{"id":85,"count":1,"description":"Validation involves listening to what the person is saying in a nonjudgmental environment, stating back what you hear them saying to you and then responding to the person\u2019s needs at that time.\r\n\r\nFor example, when talking to someone nod and make small gestures to show you are listening (e.g. say mmhmm, I see, huh). Then restate what you hear the person saying (e.g. \u201cThat really hurt your feelings\u201d, \u201cYou didn\u2019t like that\u201d, \u201cThat pisses you off!\u201d or \u201cYou\u2019re angry!\u201d). Respond by asking what the person needs, they may want space or a hug or to just vent a bit more while you listen.\r\n\r\nBe mindful and avoid judging what the other person is saying. Show tolerance for the other person by working to recognize that their reaction makes sense considering his\/her life situation, experiences and history even if you do not necessarily agree with that person.\r\n\r\nWhat does it mean to be invalidating?\r\n\r\nWe invalidate people\u2019s feelings when we minimize or disregard their experience. Some common examples: \u201cOh, you\u2019ll get over it\u201d, \u201cYou don\u2019t need those friends anyway\u201d, \u201cIt\u2019s not that big a deal\u201d or \u201cYou should\u2026\u201d.\r\n\r\nWhat are the negative impacts of being invalidating?\r\n\r\nThere are many negative outcomes from not validating others\u2019, including it:\r\n