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The first day of school is a joyous occasion for many children, but it can be a bittersweet time for parents. After all, it means saying goodbye to their little ones for several hours each day. For some parents, the separation can be difficult to cope with. They may feel sad, lonely, or even anxious.

If you’re a parent who is struggling with separation anxiety, there are a few things you can do to cope. First, it’s important to remember that these feelings are normal. Everyone feels a little bit sad when their child goes back to school. The important thing is to not let these feelings overwhelm you.

Here are a few tips for coping with separation anxiety:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay to feel sad or anxious about your child’s return to school. These are normal emotions. Don’t try to bottle them up or pretend that you’re not feeling anything.
  2. Talk to your child about your feelings. Let your child know that you’re going to miss them, but that you’re also excited for them to start school. Talk about what they’re looking forward to about the new school year.
  3. Make a special goodbye routine. This could involve giving them a hug, reading them a story, or making them breakfast.
  4. Make a plan for staying connected. Set up a regular time each day or week to talk to your child on the phone or video chat. You can also send them texts, emails or letters.
  5. Reach out to other parents who are also feeling separation anxiety. Talking to someone who understands what you’re going through can be helpful.
  6. Get involved in your child’s school. Volunteering at your child’s school is a great way to stay connected and support their education. You can also attend parent-teacher conferences and school events.
  7. Take some time for yourself each day. This could involve reading, going for a walk or spending time with friends.

If you’re still struggling to cope with separation anxiety, it’s important to seek professional help. A therapist can help you understand your feelings and develop coping mechanisms.

Remember, you’re not alone in this. Many parents go through the same thing when their child starts school. With a little time and effort, you’ll be able to cope with separation anxiety and enjoy this new chapter in your child’s life.

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Twenty-two years ago today, the world changed forever. On September 11, 2001, terrorists hijacked four airplanes and carried out a series of coordinated attacks that killed nearly 3,000 people and injured thousands more.

The attacks were a horrific act of violence, but they also brought out the best in humanity. In the days and weeks that followed, people from all over the world came together to show their support for the victims and their families.

We saw acts of courage and compassion from firefighters, police officers, and ordinary citizens. We saw people donate blood, volunteer their time, and open their hearts to those in need.

The courage, strength, and resilience of the human spirit was on full display in the aftermath of 9/11. It is a reminder that even in the darkest of times, there is always hope.

Here are some specific examples of the courage, strength, and resilience of the people in the aftermath of 9/11:

  • Firefighters and police officers risked their lives to save others.
  • Ordinary citizens volunteered their time and money to help the victims and their families.
  • People from all over the world donated blood and other supplies.
  • Businesses and organizations offered free or discounted services to help those in need.
  • Children wrote letters of support to the victims and their families.
  • Survivors of the attacks found the strength to rebuild their lives.

The attacks of 9/11 were a terrible tragedy, but they also showed us the best of humanity. We saw people come together to help each other in a time of need. We saw the power of the human spirit to overcome adversity.

How Can We Celebrate the Courage, Strength, and Resilience of the People?

  1. Honor the past. Learn about the history of your community or country and the challenges that people have faced. This can help you to appreciate the courage and strength of those who came before you.
  2. Recognize the present. Be aware of the challenges that people are facing today, both locally and globally. This could include things like poverty, war, or natural disasters. Find ways to support those who are struggling.
  3. Celebrate the good. There are many stories of courage, strength, and resilience happening all around us. Take the time to read about or watch these stories to be inspired.
  4. Get involved. There are many ways to get involved in your community and make a difference. You could volunteer your time, donate to a cause, or start your own project.
  5. Be kind. One of the simplest ways to celebrate the courage, strength, and resilience of others is to be kind to them. This could mean something as small as holding the door open for someone or as big as donating blood or volunteering at a soup kitchen.

We can also celebrate the courage, strength, and resilience of the people by living our lives to the fullest. Let us never take our freedom for granted and let us always be willing to help others in need.


September 11, 2001 was a dark day in our history, but it also showed us the best of humanity. The courage, strength, and resilience of the people in the aftermath of the attacks is an inspiration to us all.

Let us never forget the victims and their families, and let us always strive to live our lives to the fullest. We can honor the memory of those who lost their lives on 9/11 by being courageous, strong, and resilient in the face of adversity.

Here are some resources for those who are struggling with grief or trauma:

  • National Center for PTSD: This website provides information and resources on post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), including coping strategies, treatment options, and support groups. https://www.ptsd.va.gov/.
  • American Psychological Association: This website provides information on grief and loss, trauma, and coping strategies, as well as a directory of psychologists who specialize in these areas.  https://www.apa.org/topics/grief/.
  • The Dougy Center: The Dougy Center is a national organization that provides grief support to children, teens, and their families. You can find their website here: https://www.dougy.org/.
  • The Compassionate Friends: This organization provides support to bereaved parents and families. https://www.compassionatefriends.org/.
  • The National Child Traumatic Stress Network: This website provides information and resources on childhood traumatic stress, including treatment options and support groups. https://www.nctsn.org/.
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Labor Day: A Celebration of Hard Work

Posted by Collaborative Counseling
Labor day

Labor Day is a federal holiday in the United States that is celebrated on the first Monday of September. It is a day to commemorate the contributions of workers to the strength, prosperity, and well-being of the country. Labor Day, A Celebration of Hard Work.

Today, Labor Day is a day for people to relax and enjoy the fruits of their labor. It is also a day to reflect on the progress that we have made as a nation, and to recommit ourselves to the fight for a better future for all workers.

The Importance of Hard Work

Hard work is essential to the success of any society. It is through hard work that we create the goods and services that we need to live and thrive. It is also through hard work that we build strong communities and a better future for ourselves and our children.

Hard work is not always easy. It can be physically and mentally demanding. It can also be frustrating and discouraging. But when we persevere through hard times and continue to work hard, we are rewarded with a sense of accomplishment, pride, and satisfaction.

We should all be proud of the hard work that we do. Whether we are working in a traditional job, running our own business, or raising a family, we are all making a contribution to society. We should never take our hard work for granted.

Celebrating the Hard Work That You Do

This Labor Day, I encourage you to take some time to reflect on the hard work that you do. Be grateful for the opportunities that you have. Be proud of your accomplishments and the contributions that you make to your community. And remember that you are not alone. There are millions of people who work hard every day, just like you.

And don’t forget to celebrate the hard work of others. Thank the people who make your life possible, from the farmers who grow our food to the teachers who educate our children.

Thank you for your hard work and have a happy and safe Labor Day!

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10 Tips for Smoother Mornings

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10 Tips for Smoother Mornings

Not all of us are morning and getting yourself and your kids ready and out the door can be down right stressful. Here are a few helpful tips to make mornings go smoothly.

1. Pack lunches the night before

Instead of rushing around in the morning to pack lunches for yourself and your kids do it the night before.  You can even include your kids in this and have them help pack their own lunch.

2. Gets backpacks and outfits laid out

Having everything packed the night before eliminates the morning stress have rushing around to find library books that are due or show and tell items that are needed for that day.

3. Create a visual schedule for the morning routine

Visual reminders will help kids remember what is included in their morning routine. It will also help to keep them on task.

4. No screen time until everyone is completely ready

Not having screen time until everyone is ready can help with motivating everyone to stick to the routine so that

5. Give everyone a responsibility

Give everyone a job to help get ready in the morning. Whether it is putting out the dishes for breakfast, helping put away today, or helping a younger sibling get ready. Everyone will play a part in getting ready.

6. Be consistent

Being consistent will help your morning routine become habit for your family.

7. Make sure everyone gets enough sleep

Both you and your kids need sleep. Mornings will go better when everyone wakes up feeling well rested.

8. Don’t leave breakfast until last

Everyone has a hard time concentrating and getting things done when they are hungry. Have breakfast earlier in the morning to avoid cranky kids and cranky adults.

9. Remember to check the calendar

Set notifications if there is something special going on that day. No one wants to forget a fun dress up day for the kids or forget to get a treat ready for the class.

10. Stay calm

The more you can organize the easier it will be to get things ready in the morning without getting frustrated or flustered.

How your morning goes can really set the tone for your entire day. Use these tips to help form a morning routine and have less stressful mornings.

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10 ways to honor a loved one that has passed away

Posted by Collaborative Counseling

Grief and Loss

Grief is a natural human emotion that occurs when someone we love dies. It is a complex process that can involve a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and loneliness. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and everyone experiences it differently.

Some people find it helpful to talk about their grief with friends and family, while others prefer to grieve in private. There are also many support groups available for people who are grieving.

It is important to allow yourself to feel your emotions and to take care of yourself during this time. Get enough rest, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly. It may also be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor.

Here are 10 ways to honor a loved one that has passed away:

  1. Create a memorial. A memorial can be a physical object, such as a bench or tree, or it can be something more abstract, such as a song or poem. The memorial should be something that reminds you of your loved one and their life.
  2. Donate to a charity in their name. This is a great way to honor your loved one’s memory and help others at the same time. Choose a charity that was important to your loved one, or one that supports a cause they were passionate about.
  3. Volunteer your time. Volunteering is another way to give back to the community and honor your loved one’s memory. Find a cause that was important to them and get involved.
  4. Plant a tree. Trees are a symbol of life, and planting one in your loved one’s name is a beautiful way to honor their memory. Choose a tree that is native to your area and that will thrive in your climate.
  5. Write a letter. Sometimes the best way to honor a loved one is to simply write them a letter. Tell them how much you loved them and how much they meant to you. You can also share your memories of them and how they’ve impacted your life.
  6. Create a scrapbook. A scrapbook is a great way to preserve memories of your loved one. Collect photos, letters, and other mementos, and arrange them in a creative way. You can also add captions and write about your memories of your loved one.
  7. Share their story. Tell others about your loved one and their life. Share stories about their childhood, their accomplishments, and their unique personality. This is a great way to keep their memory alive and to help others learn about them.
  8. Live your life to the fullest. One of the best ways to honor a loved one is to live your life to the fullest. Do the things that they loved to do and that made them happy. This is a way of keeping their spirit alive and of showing them how much they meant to you.
  9. Never forget them. The most important way to honor a loved one is to never forget them. Keep their memory alive in your heart and in your mind. Talk about them often and share stories about them with others.
  10. Be kind to others. Another way to honor a loved one is to be kind to others. This is something that your loved one would have wanted you to do, and it’s a way of spreading their love and compassion to the world.

Resources to Help

If you are struggling with grief, there are many resources available to help you. Here are a few:

Losing a loved one is never easy, but there are many ways to honor their memory and keep their spirit alive.

Remember, you are not alone. There are many people who understand what you are going through and who want to help.

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Independence Day: Celebrating Your Independence

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Independence Day: Celebrating Your Independence

Independence Day is a time to celebrate the freedom and independence that we enjoy as Americans. It is also a time to reflect on our own personal independence and how we can continue to grow and thrive as individuals.

There are many ways to celebrate Independence Day. Some people like to spend time with family and friends, cook out, and watch fireworks. Others like to attend parades or concerts. There are also many opportunities to volunteer or give back to the community on Independence Day.

No matter how you choose to celebrate, it is important to take some time to reflect on your own independence. What does it mean to you to be independent? What are some of the things that you have done to achieve your independence? What are some of the things that you still want to achieve?

Here are a few tips for celebrating your own independence on Independence Day:

  • Set some goals for yourself. What do you want to achieve in your life? What are some of the things that you want to be independent of? Once you have some goals, you can start to make a plan for how to achieve them.
  • Take some risks. Independence is often about stepping outside of your comfort zone and trying new things. If you want to be more independent, you need to be willing to take some risks.
  • Be proud of your accomplishments. When you achieve a goal, take some time to celebrate your accomplishment. This will help you to stay motivated and to continue to strive for your independence.

By setting goals, taking risks, and celebrating our accomplishments, we can all achieve a greater degree of independence.

Here are some additional thoughts on celebrating your own independence:

  • First, Be grateful for what you have. It is easy to focus on the things that we don’t have when we are striving for independence. However, it is important to remember to be grateful for the things that we do have. This will help us to stay positive and motivated.
  • Second, Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Independence doesn’t mean that you have to do everything on your own. There will be times when you need help from others. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
  • In conclusion, Enjoy the journey. Independence is a journey, not a destination. There will be ups and downs along the way. Therefore, if you enjoy the journey, you will be more likely to achieve your goals.

Remember, independence is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride!

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Self care, biking, running, meditate

Self-care is important for everyone, but it can be especially difficult to make time for when you’re on a budget. Taking care of yourself is an investment in your health and well-being, and it’s worth it to make time for it, even if you’re on a budget. Here are 20 budget-friendly self-care ides that can help you take care of yourself without breaking the bank:

  1. Take a walk. Going for a walk is a great way to get some exercise and fresh air, both of which are beneficial for your physical and mental health. And, it’s free!
  2. Read a book. Curling up with a good book is a great way to relax and escape from the stresses of everyday life. If you don’t have a lot of money to spend on books, check out your local library or bookshop for used books.
  3. Listen to music. Listening to music can help to improve your mood and reduce stress. Create a playlist of your favorite songs or listen to a new album.
  4. Take a bath. Adding some essential oils to your bath can help to create a relaxing atmosphere. You can also add some bath salts or bubbles for an extra treat.
  5. Get a massage. If you can afford it, a massage is a great way to relax and de-stress. However, there are also many ways to give yourself a massage at home. Try using a tennis ball or rolling pin to massage your muscles.
  6. Meditate. Meditation is a great way to reduce stress and improve your focus. There are many different types of meditation, so find one that works for you.
  7. Yoga. Yoga is a great way to improve your flexibility, strength, and balance. It can also help to reduce stress and improve your mood.
  8. Spend time in nature. Spending time in nature has been shown to have a number of benefits for your physical and mental health. Go for a walk in the park, hike in the woods, or just sit in your backyard and enjoy the fresh air.
  9. Get enough sleep. When you’re well-rested, you’re better able to handle stress and make good decisions. Aim for 7-8 hours of sleep per night.
  10. Eat healthy foods. Eating healthy foods gives you the energy you need to feel your best. Make sure to include plenty of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains in your diet.
  11. Drink plenty of water. Staying hydrated is important for your physical and mental health. Aim to drink 8 glasses of water per day.
  12. Get regular exercise. Exercise is a great way to reduce stress, improve your mood, and boost your energy levels. Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate-intensity exercise most days of the week.
  13. Spend time with loved ones. Social connection is important for your mental health. Make time for the people who matter most to you.
  14. Do something you enjoy. Whether it’s reading, painting, or playing music, make time for something that you enjoy doing. This will help you to relax and de-stress.
  15. Set boundaries. It’s important to set boundaries between work and personal time. Make sure to take some time for yourself each day to relax and recharge.
  16. Say no. It’s okay to say no to things that you don’t have time for or that you don’t want to do. Don’t feel guilty about putting your own needs first.
  17. Take care of your mental health. If you’re struggling with your mental health, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist can help you to develop coping mechanisms and strategies for dealing with stress.
  18. Be kind to yourself. It’s important to be kind to yourself, even when you make mistakes. Forgive yourself and move on.
  19. Take a break from social media. Social media can be a great way to stay connected with friends and family, but it can also be a major source of stress. Take a break from social media every now and then to clear your head and relax.
  20. Do something nice for someone else. Doing something nice for someone else can help to improve your mood and make you feel good about yourself. Volunteer your time, donate to a charity, or simply do a kind act for a stranger.

These are just a few ideas for budget-friendly self-care. The most important thing is to find activities that you enjoy and that help you to relax and de-stress.

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The Importance of Fathers

Posted by Sam McManigle
The importance of Fathers

Father’s Day is a special day to celebrate all the fathers in our lives. It is a time to show our appreciation for their love, support, and guidance. Fathers play a vital role in the development of their children, and their influence can be felt for a lifetime. The importance of fathers cannot be overstated.

Here are some of the reasons why fathers are so important:

  • They provide love and support. Fathers are a source of love and support for their children. They are there to comfort them when they are sad, to cheer them on when they are happy, and to help them through tough times.
  • They teach their children important life skills. Fathers teach their children important life skills, such as how to be responsible, how to work hard, and how to be kind and compassionate. They also help their children develop their talents and interests.
  • They serve as role models. Fathers serve as role models for their children. They teach their children what it means to be a man, a husband, and a father. They also show their children how to be responsible, how to work hard, and how to be kind and compassionate.

Fathers play a vital role in the development of their children, and their influence can be felt for a lifetime. On this Father’s Day, let us all take a moment to thank our fathers for all that they do.

Here are some specific ways that fathers can positively impact their children’s lives:

  • Be present. The most important thing that a father can do for his children is to be present in their lives. This means spending time with them, listening to them, and being involved in their activities.
  • Be a role model. Children learn by watching the adults in their lives. If a father wants his children to be kind, compassionate, and responsible, he needs to model those qualities himself.
  • Set high expectations. Fathers should set high expectations for their children. This doesn’t mean that they need to be perfect, but they should expect their children to work hard, do their best, and be respectful of others.
  • Be supportive. Fathers should be supportive of their children’s dreams and goals. They should encourage them to follow their passions and to never give up on their dreams.
  • Be patient. Parenting is a journey, and it’s important to be patient with yourself and your children. There will be ups and downs, but if you’re patient and loving, you’ll get through them together.

Fathers play a vital role in the lives of their children. By being present, being a role model, setting high expectations, being supportive, and being patient, fathers can help their children grow into happy, healthy, and successful adults.

How to Celebrate Father’s Day There are many ways to celebrate.

Here are a few ideas:

  • Spend time together. The best way to celebrate Father’s Day is to spend time with your father. Go on a hike, play catch, or just sit and talk.
  • Give him a gift. A gift doesn’t have to be expensive. A homemade card, a framed photo, or a gift certificate to his favorite store will show him how much you care.
  • Make him a meal. Cooking dinner for your father is a great way to show him how much you appreciate him. He’ll love a home-cooked meal, especially if it’s his favorite dish.
  • Write him a letter. A letter is a personal way to express your love and appreciation for your father. Tell him how much he means to you and why you’re so grateful to have him in your life.
  • Take him out to his favorite place. If your father has a favorite restaurant or activity, take him out to enjoy it. He’ll love spending time with you and doing something he enjoys.

Overall no matter how you choose to celebrate Father’s Day, make sure to let your father know how much you love and appreciate him. He deserves it!

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Simple Self Care

Posted by Collaborative Counseling
Budget friendly self care

As we wind down from the holidays and settle back into our routines, we may find ourselves already dreading the season of cold and day-to-day living that awaits us. At times like these, it is important to actively engage in self-care. Some days, taking care of ourselves can come naturally. However, there are some days when it just feels like we don’t have enough time or energy to devote to proper care for our minds and bodies. 

Here are 5 simple methods of self-care that will have a big impact on how you feel with a small impact on your schedule.


We tend to associate being dehydrated with extreme physical symptoms. We forget that it can be a mild, everyday, occurrence resulting in a profound impact on our mental health. Drinking water throughout the day can help boost your energy and your mood, reducing overall feelings of depression and anxiety. If you struggle to keep up with your water intake, start with small goals. For example, drink a glass of water when you wake up, and at every meal. There are also great resources, and apps to help you track how much water you drink a day. Find a system that works for you, and start small. Remember to set achievable goals, and build as you go. 

Listen to Music

Listening to some good beats can be an excellent way to add simple self-care to your routine. It can help you gear up for your day, or wind down for the evening. You might have 5 minutes to sit and meditate, or have a day packed full of activities. Luckily, listening to music is an easy self-care method that can fit into any schedule. 

How does science link music to mental health? The University of Central Florida has a great tool that helps us understand how music positively impacts each area of the brain. Check it out here: https://www.ucf.edu/pegasus/your-brain-on-music/

Take a Warm Shower (or bath)

When we experience extreme emotions like stress or anxiety, our muscles can get very tense. We might start to feel like we are stuck, or that our bodies have locked up. Taking 10 minutes for a hot shower can help relieve a lot of that tension, and allow us to relax. If you find that you have some extra time, try taking a warm bath right before bed to get a good night’s sleep. 

Take a Hike!

…Actually, even a short walk around the block will do some good. A study done in 2013 found that people who suffered from depression experienced a positive mood shift after walking outside for 50 minutes. In addition to a mental boost, a walk around the neighborhood is a simple and free way to add a little exercise to the day. 

Check our our blog post on what happens when you spend time outside.


This last act of simple self-care requires little effort but will have mighty results. Deep breathing sessions are a great way to help the mind and body find a space to relax. If you’re experiencing anxiety, it can also slow your heart rate, and help to regain control. This exercise doesn’t have to be complicated. Some smartwatches and phones come with guided breathing applications that make the process easy and convenient.  

If you want to give it a try, you can also check out this 3-minute guided breathing exercise video

These 5 acts of Simple Self-Care are a great way to boost your mood, and they only take 30 minutes or less. Consider adding just one to your daily routine, and you will find that even the slightest change can make a big difference. 

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How to Cope With Holiday Stress

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Woman suffering from Postpartum depression

While the holidays can bring plenty of joy, for many people it can be a very stressful time of year. Almost a quarter of American’s report feeling “extreme stress” around the holiday season. Even if you are not someone who experiences a great amount of stress around this time of year, here are some coping skills you can use yourself or share with others who may be struggling with the stress of the holiday season.

Let Go of Expectations

We often become fixated on our expectations and become upset when reality does not match those expectations, especially when it comes to the holidays and traditions. Remember that things may not go perfectly or exactly as planned but that is not what really matters. The holidays are an opportunity to surround ourselves with friends and family and to share in experiences that bring us closer together.

Be Present and Mindful

The holidays are obviously a very busy and fast-paced time of year for many people. While it can be easy to fall into this pattern of go, go, go, be mindful of when you are experiencing stress or anxiety and when it may be time to take a break. Around this time of year, we tend to be focused on the needs of others and let our own needs fall by the wayside. It is important to make time for self-care, whatever that means for you.

Set Boundaries

Know your limits and know when to say “no” to things. Stress and anxiety can often arise from taking on too much at once. Part of good self-care is knowing when you have reached your capacity and setting boundaries around the use of your time (including who you spend time with and when). Know that you do not have to attend every holiday event you are invited to or spend time with people who do not make you feel your best.

Maintain Your Routine

With the holidays come plenty of fun events and delicious treats to enjoy. However, trying to maintain most of your daily routine can help greatly when it comes to coping with stress. Exercise, diet and sleep are key components to both mental and physical health. Most people do not get enough sleep and holiday stress can exacerbate that problem. Taking a daily walk, setting a “bed-time” for yourself and/or starting your day with a healthy breakfast can help you to feel and stay on track and maintain healthy habits during a time when schedules tend to fluctuate.

The holidays don’t have to be a time of extreme stress! Try to focus on the things that fill you up rather than the things that drain you. Spend more time doing things and spending time with the people who lift you up and make you feel your best. Most of all, remember that the holidays are what you make them, no more and no less.

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