What Leads People to Cutting?
Posted by Collaborative Counseling
Research estimates that 80% of cutters and those who self harm are trying to regain their emotional balance. There are a couple of factors commonly seen in those who cut:
1) They tend to be more sensitive and emotionally reactive.
2) They often feel invalidated by their environment.
Let’s break these two apart to make them more understandable.
Sensitive and Emotionally Reactive
People who cut seem to be more sensitive than others and they tend to have much stronger reactions to the feelings they experience. They also seem to take longer to recover from strong emotions than most. Others will often describe them as a “drama queen”, “overemotional” or “overly sensitive”. This strong emotional reaction makes them vulnerable to acting in a way that is either impulsive or can be desperate to soothe him or herself.
Invalidated by the Environment
This means they do not feel understood or heard. Validation involves using empathy to make sure the other person feels heard and understood. To validate, we accept the other person’s experience as they state it without judging or helping problem solve. Often with emotionally reactive people we can get reactive ourselves instead of trying to make them feel better or helping them to solve the problem.
These two factors combined will often leave the person struggling to find a way to feel in control, particularly of strong negative emotions. Cutting thus becomes a tool to manage painful emotions because it soothes just as drugs and alcohol can.
For more information on how to help someone who cuts, visit http://collaborativemn.com/dialectical-behavior-therapy/